Hi everyone and welcome to Bristol Grandparents Support Group blog. Although we are Bristol based we have grandparents from all over the UK and beyond as members.

It is estimated that over one million children in the UK are denied contact with their grandparents due to family breakdown which may have been caused by divorce/separation, alcohol/drug dependency,domestic violence,bereavement or family feud.
Every child has the right to have contact with their grandparents
if they wish and unless proven unsafe for them to do so. To deny contact from a parent or grandparent has to become as socially unacceptable as drink driving.
I hope to keep you up to date with what is going on in BGSG and I shall continue to campaign for the rights of children to have a loving and meaningful relationship with both parents and their extended family. So please join in as good to hear your views, not just mine!
I also will support via Skype.
There is no membership fee to be part of Bristol Grandparents Support Group.
Esther Rantzen says, " To every grandparent, links of love can never be broken in our hearts."

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Wednesday 9 February 2011

Why am I doing this?

Amidst the drawing up of constitution,applying for funding,presentation for schools/talks etc time to stop and think about why I started along this road.
There is not a single day that passes that I don't think about my granddaughter, no longer the little girl of 7 but a grown up girl of nearly 11,soon to be moving on to secondary school. It has been 4 long years since we had any contact with her, the whole family are touched by her not being in our lives, not having her there at Christmas,Easter, Weddings all the usual family stuff.
What did she do to deserve this, not being allowed the love and care of her Dad and his new wife,the support and unconditional love from her grandparents and the love of her uncle and auntie.
Nothing at all.
She became a weapon to be used in an adult world in which she had no control, adults making decisions about her life, her right to her family,her right to her family history and her right to family love.
Liandra, when I am at a meeting, or talking to teachers and groups about the impact denied contact is having on children like you, I never forget that I am doing it all for you, to be able to perhaps one day be able to feel your hug,share in your laughter and to dry your tears.
There are over one million children in the UK who are not part of their grandparents lives, amongst those million, is one very special one and that is my beautiful granddaughter.
So yes,it is personal.
Adults have to understand what they are doing to the children, this is a time bomb for future generations, children who are angry,confused, not trusting. Children who will be having children of their own ,how will they regain trust of family life.
A whole generation of children without the bedrock of their families.
And this is all caused by adults, people who should be listening, listening to the children's voices doing what is right for the children.


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