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Hi everyone and welcome to Bristol Grandparents Support Group blog. Although we are Bristol based we have grandparents from all over the UK and beyond as members.

It is estimated that over one million children in the UK are denied contact with their grandparents due to family breakdown which may have been caused by divorce/separation, alcohol/drug dependency,domestic violence,bereavement or family feud.
Every child has the right to have contact with their grandparents
if they wish and unless proven unsafe for them to do so. To deny contact from a parent or grandparent has to become as socially unacceptable as drink driving.
I hope to keep you up to date with what is going on in BGSG and I shall continue to campaign for the rights of children to have a loving and meaningful relationship with both parents and their extended family. So please join in as good to hear your views, not just mine!
I also will support via Skype.
There is no membership fee to be part of Bristol Grandparents Support Group.
Esther Rantzen says, " To every grandparent, links of love can never be broken in our hearts."

Please contact during office hours.
07773258270


Sunday 30 October 2011

Schools Guidance-Parental Responsibility

Title Schools, “Parents” and “Parental Responsibility”
Function Guidance
Subject Category Home and Community
Audience Head teachers of all schools
Status Guidance on the law and good practice
Date of issue
Ref
Related documents
Legislation: Education Act 1996 (Section 576). Children Act 1989
Superseded documents
DfES/0092/2000: Schools, “Parents” and “Parental Responsibility”
Overview
This guidance informs schools who is a parent for the purposes of education legislation; provides a brief description of court orders which settle areas of dispute about a child’s care or upbringing and which can limit an individual’s parental responsibility; and sets out some general principles to guide schools as to whom they should involve in a child’s education and whom they should keep informed about school matters; and advises on good practice.
This guidance should not be treated as a complete and authoritative statement of the law. Schools should consider taking independent legal advice about any particular set of circumstances. The term ‘resident’ and ‘non-resident’ are used to distinguish between parents who live with a child and those who do not. In this guidance we are careful to differentiate between legal requirement and good practice. We use “must” for a duty in. We use “can” for a power (not a duty) under statutory or common law. We use “should” for advice on good practice.
Action
Schools to apply this guidance when dealing with non-resident parents, others who have parental responsibility and those that have care of a child, who wish to be involved in their children’s education.
Further information
Put in PCU address and phone 0870 000 2288 and email address
The guidance can be found at the following website
Contents
Page
Introduction
3
Definition of “parent”
3
Definition of “parental responsibility”
3
Who has parental responsibility?
4
Court orders and parental responsibility
5
What schools should do:
· General principle
6
· Administration
7
· Provision of information to parents
7
· Obtaining parental consent to off-site educational visits and activities
8
· Consent to medical treatment
9
· Medication in schools
9
· Informing parents about an accident during an educational visit
9
· Sex and relationship education (SRE)
9
· Religious education and collective worship
10

INTRODUCTION
1. Schools are required by law to have a wide range of communication with pupils’ parents. (For examples, see paragraph 16). The question “Who are a pupil’s parents?” is, however, not always as straightforward as it sounds. In addition, schools canfind themselves caught up in disputes between a number of adults who each claim to have parental responsibility for a particular child.
2. The welfare of the particular child will be the paramount consideration for schools. However, situations will arise from time to time where a parent’s action,or proposed action, conflicts with the school’s ability to act in the best interests of the child. In such cases, school staff should try to resolve the problem with that parent but should avoid becoming involved in any conflict.
3. This note:
· Explains who is a parent for the purposes of education legislation; and
· Provides a brief description of court orders which settle areas of dispute about a child’s care or upbringing and which can limit an individual’s parental responsibility; and
· Sets out some general principles to guide schools as to who they must involve in issues about a child's education and who they must keep informed about school matters.
4. This guidance should not be treated as a complete and authoritative statement of the law. Schools should consider taking independent legal advice about any particular individual set of circumstances. The term ‘resident’ and ‘non-resident’ are used to distinguish between parents who live with a child and those who do not.
DEFINITION OF “PARENT”
5. For the purposes of education legislation, the meaning of the term “parent” [1] has a particular meaning that is wider than its ‘ordinary’ meaning. It includes not only the child’s father and mother but also:
· Any other person who has parental responsibility for a child or young person; and
· Any other person who has care of a child or young person, that is, a person with whom the child lives and who looks after the child.
DEFINITION OF “PARENTAL RESPONSIBILITY
6. Having parental responsibility [2] means having all the rights, duties, powers, responsibilities and authority that a parent of a child has by law in relation to that child.
7. The parental responsibility of one party does not stop simply because another person is also given it. So, in some cases, several people may have parental responsibility and may, therefore, be regarded, for the purposes of education law, as being a “parent” of a child.
WHO HAS PARENTAL RESPONSIBILITY?
8. Parents married to each other at the time of a child’s birth both have parental responsibility for that child[3].
9. If the parents of a child were not married to each other when the child was born, the mother automatically has parental responsibility[4] but the father does not, unless he has subsequently acquired it in one of the following ways[5]. By:
· Registering as the child’s father by jointly registering with the mother the birth of the child, if the child was born on or after 1 December 2003. If the child was born before 1 December 2003, the fact that the father is named on the birth certificate does not give him parental responsibility;
· Entering into an agreement with the child’s mother that he will have parental responsibility. To have legal effect, the agreement must be in the prescribed form and registered in the prescribed manner[6];
· Court order;
· Marrying the mother of the child.
10. A person, other than a child’s natural parents, can acquire parental responsibility through:
· Being granted a residence order;
· Being granted a special guardianship order[7];
· Being appointed a guardian[8];
· Being named in an emergency protection order (although parental responsibility in such a case is limited to taking reasonable steps to safeguard or promote the child's welfare); or
· Adopting a child.
11. A step-parent (whether the relationship is the result of marriage or civil partnership) may also acquire parental responsibility for a child of their spouse or civil partner, either by agreement between the step-parent and the parents who have parental responsibility for the child, or by order of the court[9].
12. In addition, a local authority can acquire parental responsibility if it is named in the care order for a child, although any person who is a parent or guardian retains parental responsibility and may exercise it providing their actions are not incompatible with the care order. While the care order is in force, the local authority can limit the extent to which parents can exercise their parental responsibility, where it is necessary in order to promote or safeguard the child’s welfare[10]. The local authority can temporarily terminate contact between a parent and a child in care where this is necessary in order to promote or safeguard the child’s welfare[11] or there may be a court order authorising the local authority to refuse contact between a parent and a child in care[12]. Children can also be “accommodated” by the local authority[13], where there is a joint arrangement between the parents and the local authority that the latter will look after the child. This does not, however, involve a court order and the parents can withdraw from the arrangement if they choose to do so.
COURT ORDERS AND PARENTAL RESPONSIBILITY
13. Court orders under section 8 of the Children Act 1989 (often called “section 8 orders”) settle areas of dispute about a child's care or upbringing after parent separator divorce. These orders can limit the extent an individual parental responsibility. There are two types of order which are concerned with particular issues and which still allow everyone with parental responsibility to participate in all other major decisions about a child’s education:
· A prohibited steps order imposes a specific restriction on the exercise of parental responsibility. This means that action which a parent could otherwise take in the exercise of parental responsibility cannot be taken without the consent of the court. For example, the order might prevent one parent taking the child abroad for an extended period or prevent the child from attending a form of religious worship against the wishes of the other parent.
· A specific issue order is an order giving directions for the purpose of determining a specific question which has arisen, or may arise, in connection with any aspect of the exercise of parental responsibility. An example would be an order allowing one parent to arrange for a child to be admitted to a particular school against the wishes of the other parent.
14. ther types of order are:
· A residence order, which says where and with whom a child should live, and gives the person in whose favour the order is made parental responsibility for the child (if he or she does not already have it).
· A contact order, which instructs the person with whom the child is living to allow another person to visit the child, have the child to visit or stay with him or her, or have contact by letter or telephone.
15. Where a court is satisfied that the child is at risk of significant harm, it can make a care order which gives parental responsibility to a local authority. See paragraph 12.
WHAT SCHOOLS MUST/SHOULD DO
General principle
16. Everyone who is a parent for the purposes of education legislation (see paragraph 5) has rights and responsibilities in relation to their child’s education; even though, for day to day purposes, the school’s main contact is likely to be a parent with whom the child lives on school days. This means that all non-resident parents enjoy the same rights as resident parents to access information about their children’s progress at school, except, of course, where a court order provides otherwise. For example, all parents can expect to be:
· Sent information by the school both of a general nature (e.g. the school profile), and in relation to their own child (e.g. report on the child’s progress and attainment);
· Informed if special educational provision is made for the child at the school;
· Given the opportunity to participate in school activities (e.g. vote in elections for parent governors, attend events held for parents at the school) and to meet with school staff e.g. to discuss their child’s report;
· Told about meetings regarding the child (e.g. a governors’ meeting to review the child’s exclusion from school).
17. All parents also have obligations, for example to ensure that a child of compulsory school age receives a suitable full-time education.
Administration
18. Head teachers -
· Should ask the parent who registers the child at the school for the names and addresses of all the child’s parents (within the definition in 576Education Act 1996);
· Must ensure these details, where known, are included in the admission register[14];
· Should ensure that the names and addresses of all parents are also included in pupil records (which need to be kept up to date) and are available to the child's teachers;
· Should ensure that the school has details of who to contact in the case of an accident or medical emergency;
· Should ensure the information is forwarded to any school to which the child moves.
19. Details of court orders (where known) should also be noted in a pupil's record. Such information will be necessary when deciding who can give parental permission for a school visit, or who needs to be contacted if the child is ill, as well as what to do in more difficult situations - for example, if a parent, rather than a foster-parent, comes to collect a child in local authority care from school.
20. Problems can arise following the break down of a marriage in relation to the surname by which a child is known. For example, a mother with whom a child resides following divorce may ask the school to change the child’s name in its records, perhaps to her maiden name. If a residence order or a care order is in force, no one is allowed to change the child’s surname without the written consent of every other person who has parental responsibility for the child[15]. Schools should be very cautious about making any change to a child’s name in its records unless there is good evidence that the parent seeking to make the change has legal authority to take this step. The best evidence would, of course, be the written consent of the other parent.
Provision of information to parents
21. In cases where the school does not know the whereabouts of a ‘non-resident’ parent (see paragraph 5), it should inform the resident parent that the non-resident parent is entitled to be involved in the child’s education; and request that information is passed on to the non-resident parent. If the resident parent refuses to share information with the non-resident parent or to provide contact details so that the school can deal directly with the non-resident parent, the school can do nothing more. However, if the non-resident parent subsequently contacts the school and requests access to information, the school should provide it to that parent direct - after taking reasonable steps to satisfy itself that the individual is, in fact, the child’s parent.
22. Where there is a court order for no contact with a non-resident parent, schools might wish to consult the non-resident parent and child (depending on their age and understanding) and, where necessary, seek legal advice.
23. Parents have a right to see their child’s educational record. However, occasions can arise where children do not wish their parent to have access to personal information about them. The extent to which the child can exercise their own rights to data protection and privacy will depend on the individual child’s age and understanding. Generally, where a child is sufficiently mature to understand the decision they are making, that decision should be respected. If necessary, schools might wish to seek legal advice.
Obtaining parental consent to
24. It is customary for schools to obtain parental consent for some types of off-site visit or activities, usually when these occur outside school time: for example visits that are overnight or abroad and adventure activities. See chapter 5 Communicating with Parents in ‘Health and Safety of Pupils on Educational Visits: a good practice guide’. Together with an information sheet, a consent form can be used to obtain not only consent but information about a child that may help the group leader. But obtaining consent is not a legal requirement. In the absence of a section 8 order to the contrary, there is no legal requirement for schools to obtain the consent of all “parents” before taking the child on an educational visit or off-site activity. Only a parent who has parental responsibility may give consent. Where more than one person has parental responsibility for a child, each of them may act alone and without the others in meeting that responsibility [16]. Where the school needs a parental consent for off-site activity, the head teacher should normally seek the consent of the resident parent.
25. Where the non-resident parent has asked the school to provide information about the child, the school should inform them that the resident parent has or has not given permission for their child to participate in extra-curricula activities and school trips.
26. In cases where the school considers it necessary to seek consent ment, to approach all parents who have parental responsibility, it is possible that one gives consent and other withholds it. The school should treat the situation as one in which parental consent has not been given to the child undertaking the activity in question.
Consent to medical treatment
28. A person (such as a head teacher) who does not have parental responsibility but, nonetheless, has care of a child may “do what is reasonable in all the circumstances of the case for the purpose of safeguarding or promoting the child’s welfare”[17]. For example, it is clearly reasonable for the school to take a child who has been injured to hospital. However, the parents - including any non-resident parent who has asked to be kept informed of events concerning the child - should be informed as soon as possible. The power to dispense with the need to obtain prior consent from the child’s parents is limited to genuine emergencies
Medication in schools
29. The joint DfES/Department of Health guidance Managing Medicines in Schools and Early Year Settings explains the roles and responsibilities of employers, parents and carers and local health services. It provides guidance for all schools and early years settings on developing local policies on managing and administering children's medicines, and establishing safe and effective management systems, to support individual children with medical needs. No pupil under 16 should be given medication without his/her parent’s written consent. The consent of one person with parental responsibility (normally the one who has arranged with the school for medicines to be administered to the child in school) is sufficient. The guidance can be found on the Teachernet website.
Informing parents about an accident during an educational visit
30. If an accident occurs during an off-site educational visit, the individual school is best placed to determine whether a non-resident parent should be notified separately or whether the resident parent can be relied upon to inform the non-resident parent, having regard to that local authority’s guidance.
Sex and relationship education (SRE)
31. Schools should make all parents aware of their right to withdraw their children from all or part of the SRE provided at school except for those parts that are required by the science curriculum. Schools are not required to consult each parent individually about this right, but rather it is for the parents who want to withdraw his/her child from SRE to approach the school and explain their wishes. Those elements of sex education that form part of statutory science lessons are compulsory and parents have no right to withdraw their child from these. Schools are not required to consult each parent with parental responsibility about the withdrawal of a child from SRE. The Department’s SRE guidance (DfEE 0116/2000), paragraph 5.6, states that "Schools should always work in partnership with parents, consulting them regularly on the content of their SRE programmes. Parents need to know that the school's SRE programme will complement and support their role as parents and that they can be actively involved in the determination of the school's policy."
32. If a parent, including a non-resident parent, requests to withdraw the child from SRE then they should be withdrawn[18]. Schools should inform the parent who hasn’t made the request of this decision.
Religious Education and Collective Worship
33. Schools should make parents aware of their rights to withdraw a child from these aspects of the curriculum, but it is for the parent who wishes to withdraw his/her child from RE and or collective worship to approach the school, if they wish to exercise these rights. Parents have the right to ask that their child/ren be withdrawn from all or any parts of religious education and/or collective worship. They do not have to give a reason, and schools are expected to comply with the request. Schools are expected to work with parents on finding a suitable alternative activity while the other children are taking part in religious education or collective worship.

[1] Section 576(1) of the Education Act 1996
[2] Section 3(1) of the Children Act 1989
[3] Section 2(1) of the Children Act 1989.
[4] Section 2(2) of the Children Act 1989
[5] Section 4 of the Children Act 1989
[6] See the Parental Responsibility Agreement Regulations 1991, amended by SI 2001/2262
[7] Section 14A of the Children Act 1989
[8] A guardian may be appointed by court order or by a child’s parent in accordance with section 5 of the Children act 1989
[9] Section 4A of the Children Act 1989
[10] Section 33 of the Children Act 1989
[11] Section 34(6) of the Children Act 1989
[12] Section 34(4) of the Children Act 1989
[13] Section 20 of the Children Act 1989
[14] Section 434(2) of the Education Act 1996
[15] Section 13 and section 33(7)(a) of the Children Act 1989
[16] Section 2(7) of the Children Act 1989
[17] Section 3(5) of the Children Act 1989
[18] Section 405 of the Education Act 1996

Secondary Schools not following guidelines.

It appears that Secondary Schools across the country are not following government guidelines in keeping BOTH parents involved in children's education.
If you are a non resident parent you have equal rights to information about education matters.
If you son/daughter is in this position write to the governors of the school and the Director for children, families and schools in the area your grandchildren go to school.
The Director should gently inform schools of their responsibilities.
Let me know if you are having this issue.
Please also write to your MP's asking them to pass on this concern to the Minister responsible for education.
Jane.

Friday 28 October 2011

Grandparents are suicidal.

Those of you who follow my blog and website will know my aim is always to put children first, that this is not about 'Grandparents Rights' but the rights of grandchildren.
That is still and always will be my aim.
But I do also wonder if people actually know how serious denied contact is on the physical and mental health of grandparents.
Grandparents can be so badly affected at not being able to have contact with their grandchildren that they consider ending their life. That is not an exaggeration , it is a fact.
Grandparents are so clinically depressed they are taking medication and undergoing counselling.
If you are one of these grandparents please seek help, talk to someone, NOW. Contact The Samaritans Tel: 08457909090 email: jo@samaritans.org

Jane


Legal Aid cuts?

What do you feel about the cuts in Legal Aid, will it increase the accusations of DV?

Monday 24 October 2011

To L...... with love from Gran.

Having seen the article in the paper yesterday, 'A letter to............, which I posted on the blog, I think it is a great way for us to say what we would like to say to our grandchildren, so here is my own:
Dear L.....,
I hope you are safe and well and enjoying life.
You have been at your new school now for a half a term and I wonder how you are liking it?
Have you made lots of friends, are you doing after school activities?
Of course this week you will be on half term hols, are you going away or spending time with friends?
Some many questions, that I will never know the answer to.
I hope you know how much Grandpa and I love you, and how we think of you every single day.
We are always here for you if you ever need us.
Do you remember your little house in the garden where the fairies lived, I gave it a bit of a clean up as it was looking a bit sad, think I just caught a glimpse of something inside!
We have been putting the garden to bed for Winter, it will be ready now for Spring, a time for new beginnings and new life.
I suppose I need to think about the dreaded Christmas, as you might remember not my most favourite time of the year, the true meaning of Christmas gets lost under presents that nobody really wants and that they have been forgotten by Boxing Day. For me there are too many people who are no longer here to share the time with and so many lonely people, who spend Christmas alone. This year will be even harder as, this weekend your Aunt P..... died , she had been so brave for three and a half years but could fight no more and she has now left us. I shall miss her more than words an express.
And so time moves on, darling, we live in hope that one day you will knock on our door.
Enjoy your life, live and laugh a lot.

All my love,
Gran.xx


Tuesday 18 October 2011

What is a friend?

"A true friend is a friend who makes you smile when you think you will never smile again."
Jane.

Saturday 8 October 2011

Domestic Violence Consultation.

I have the draft consultation report on DV in Bristol,
I am unable to attach it on my blog, so if you are interested and want to respond please email me.
Jane.
jane@bristolgrandparentssupportgroup.co.uk

Friday 7 October 2011

Support for each other.

Thanks to all who came to meeting this afternoon, it was good to welcome new grandparents.
A big thank you to all the support you give one another.
As I explained today, grandparents have no automatic legal right to have contact with their grandchildren, even though some media did give the impression earlier this year, that you do, but you can go to court to obtain a contact order, if you wish.
You need to apply to the court for 'leave' to apply for a contact order.
The court route could well be very expensive and with no guarantees.
We must all do what we feel is the right thing in our own circumstances.
Bristol Grandparents Support Group will always support our members in any decision they make.
Jane.
www.bristolgrandparentssupportgroup.co.uk

Thursday 6 October 2011

Soldier home from Afghanistan.

Welcome home to TC, who has finished his tour of duty in Afghanistan.
He will now be able to continue his fight to see his daughter, he was as you will remember out serving his country but was not allowed to see his daughter before he left.
Disgrace, was the word that went around the House Of Commons, but no-one had the courage to put it right.
Shame on you those in a position to make changes.
Jane.

Wednesday 5 October 2011

Do we make a difference?

Some people think that dressing up in outfits,or tying themselves to railings is the way to get attention for denied contact parents and grandparents.
It is not for me.
It is vital when talking about denied contact that it is always the interest of the children that is paramount, it is the children who don't have a voice so it is up to us to be their voice.
Writing to MP's, putting pressure on them, publicity for support groups getting the message out their is worth while.
When it becomes difficult or I feel as though I am making no difference I remember why I set up the group in 2007, being denied contact with my granddaughter was and is the most heart rending thing that has happened in my life.
So keep on writing to your MP's and raising awareness at every opportunity.
The children deserve it.
Jane.

Sunday 2 October 2011

Surrogate grandparents?

I saw an article today asking for surrogate grandparents, and I would like to hear your views on this.
Is it something you would like to do or is it too painful to contemplate?
Jane