Hi everyone and welcome to Bristol Grandparents Support Group blog. Although we are Bristol based we have grandparents from all over the UK and beyond as members.

It is estimated that over one million children in the UK are denied contact with their grandparents due to family breakdown which may have been caused by divorce/separation, alcohol/drug dependency,domestic violence,bereavement or family feud.
Every child has the right to have contact with their grandparents
if they wish and unless proven unsafe for them to do so. To deny contact from a parent or grandparent has to become as socially unacceptable as drink driving.
I hope to keep you up to date with what is going on in BGSG and I shall continue to campaign for the rights of children to have a loving and meaningful relationship with both parents and their extended family. So please join in as good to hear your views, not just mine!
I also will support via Skype.
There is no membership fee to be part of Bristol Grandparents Support Group.
Esther Rantzen says, " To every grandparent, links of love can never be broken in our hearts."

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Monday 27 August 2012

Children have the right to be part of both their parents lives.

Why I consider shared parenting is so important.
When a child is conceived it is by two people, one child two parents.
Whatever happens between those two adults has nothing to do with the child, the child still has a right to the love,care and protection of both its parents.
It is not up to an individual to decide if one parent is going to be shut out of their child's life, as a child grows and becomes an adult it is then their decision as to who they have a relationship with, be it one or both parents and grandparents.
As I have written before, if Parental Alienation occurs, when the child is older and starts to question, it will be at the expense of the relationship of the parent who is causing the Alienation.
Children who have found themselves in this horrible situation, tell us that they feel betrayed by the adults in their lives, for telling lies about a non resident parent, and for being told that their grandparents don't love them anymore and don't care. Can you possibly imagine how that young person feels? No of course not, unless it has happened to you.
Not only is it at the time they discover that they have been let down, by the adults in their lives, but it effects them for years to come if not for the rest of their lives.
They have lost trust, they have difficulty in their future relationships, they feel they don't belong and have no roots.
As grandparents, if we have found ourselves in this situation due to one of our children's separation/divorce then Shared Parenting would enable us to be part of our grandchildren's lives again. As generally, not always, if both parents have contact with their child/children then their own parents would also.
As I said at the beginning, children come into this world by two people joining together,  they have the right to be part of both parents lives.
It is the right of the children, not the right of the adults.

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