Hi everyone and welcome to Bristol Grandparents Support Group blog. Although we are Bristol based we have grandparents from all over the UK and beyond as members.

It is estimated that over one million children in the UK are denied contact with their grandparents due to family breakdown which may have been caused by divorce/separation, alcohol/drug dependency,domestic violence,bereavement or family feud.
Every child has the right to have contact with their grandparents
if they wish and unless proven unsafe for them to do so. To deny contact from a parent or grandparent has to become as socially unacceptable as drink driving.
I hope to keep you up to date with what is going on in BGSG and I shall continue to campaign for the rights of children to have a loving and meaningful relationship with both parents and their extended family. So please join in as good to hear your views, not just mine!
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Esther Rantzen says, " To every grandparent, links of love can never be broken in our hearts."

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Sunday, 2 February 2014

A grandmothers choice not to see her grandchildren.

  I use Twitter to send links of the group,  to share the blog posts, it is not for everyone , but it is a great way to reach people that you would never normally be able to reach. For BGSG it is a good tool to raise awareness of grandparents being denied contact.
Today I had a response that deserves a proper response.
In the 'tweet' it said that her mother had made the choice not to see her grandchildren, and how sad and cruel it was.
For those of us who would give anything to see our grandchildren, it is inconceivable that any grandparent would turn down the opportunity of being part of the children's lives.
For me it was such an enormous privilege to be a gran, the magic of the relationship with my granddaughter was so, so special. I have wonderful memories of laughter, fun and we had a mutual understanding of one another.
But, and there is of course a but to be acknowledged, there are some grandparents out there that either just don't want that relationship, for whatever reason, and others who shouldn't have a relationship with their grandchildren, for a variety of reasons.
Before I get an avalanche of wrath, we must be truthful.
We talk all the time of the needs of the children, of grandparents being a link to their family history and identity, but if they have a grandparent that is not interested then how do you deal with that?
As ever I don't have the answer, but I will strive to get a better understanding of Parental Alienation and all its forms and its affect on the whole family.
Finally, to my Twitter friend, I am just so sorry that your mother has made this decision.


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