National and International support group for grandparents denied contact with their grandchildren. Patron Dame Esther Rantzen
Sunday, 30 September 2012
So give yourselves a little more time, for finding somewhere to park.
Saturday, 29 September 2012
BBC Inside Out West
Many thanks again to Charlotte Leslie MP for the extra filming that took place yesterday afternoon.
Friday, 28 September 2012
Does a child have the right to a meaningful relationship with both parents?
Wednesday, 26 September 2012
Changes in definitions of Domestic Violence.
There is no excuse at all for proven Domestic Violence in all its forms.
I have put this link to a document you might find interesting.
Tuesday, 25 September 2012
Have you ever been effected by a troll?
Sunday, 23 September 2012
How much should I say?
Only offer advice if you are asked, never do the , "Don't you think you should do this, that and the other,when I had my children I did this," nothing more irritating to parents!
The point is that you are talking about your children, not theirs.
So often, family fall outs happen because someone oversteps the mark.
We must allow our children to make their own mistakes, just like we did, we have been parents the role of grandparents is totally different.
There to give support when required, to have the fun but not the responsibility!
Rule of thumb, think your own thoughts, don't speak them.
Thursday, 20 September 2012
Thanks for taking part.
The programme is due to be aired in October I will let you know the date when I have it.
I know only to well how emotionally draining it is, it is a time for reflection for us all when being asked such personal questions.
My thanks also to Kath and Steve for their sensitivity.
Wednesday, 19 September 2012
Parental Alienation e-petition.
The Family Court system should recognise Parental Alienation and the Practice Directions need to be. epetitions.direct.gov.uk1.The UK Family Courts should recognise Parental Alienation as a real problem. 2.Where Judges suspect that one parent is implacably hostile to contact, they must appoint a specialist family psychologist or psychiatrist to report back in one month. The fees should be met by the parents or by the Gove...
Monday, 17 September 2012
Sunday, 16 September 2012
Peace One Day.
Family conflict that can be so damaging to everyone, but most importantly to the children who are caught up in waring factions that is nothing to do with them, and is out of their control, but it impacts their lives so seriously.
On September 21st it is One Peace Day, it calls for everyone who is fighting in any way to cease for a day.
It is a global call, from countries at war with one another to families who are fighting, a day to STOP.
If you can stop for one day, you can stop for the other 364 days a year.
Please join the campaign.
Wednesday, 12 September 2012
If you are a "Newbie."
I set this group up in 2007 when I lost contact with my granddaughter as a result of my sons divorce.When contact with all of us was stopped.
We had been part of her life for 7years and the heartbreak for us all was devastating.
I felt I had to somehow turn this negative into a positive and so Bristol Grandparents Support Group started to slowly take shape.
So 5 years on and over 20,000 hits on the blog, a website devoted to the group and regular support group meetings and countless telephone calls from distressed grandparents, the group has now gained its own momentum, with grandparents offering support themselves.
It is worth mentioning though, that this is not a big 'corporate' group at all it is still run by me with support from my husband,and a group of trustees.
The meetings are held in my home , so if you do contact me can you please do so during 'office' hours, if I am not around leave a message and I will return your call as soon as I can. I have had occasions where people clearly think they are phoning an office so ring in the early hours of the morning to leave a message!
The group is entirely focussed on the children involved in this and denied contact issues.
We are not affiliated in any way to any other charity or organisation, we do not get government funding.
We are truly independent.
Tuesday, 11 September 2012
Hemel Hemstead Support?
Chester Support plea?
Let me know if you feel you can.
Sunday, 9 September 2012
Link to Songs of Praise.
Saturday, 8 September 2012
We will support.
It has been a very emotional and difficult time.
Thank you to everyone who sent comments,emails,messages and called me, your wise words have been very comforting.
It is difficult to explain how important this group is to me and I do feel as though it is something I am supposed to be doing. Some of you will understand that others maybe won't.
Amongst other things as suggested I wrote a list of pros and cons, here it is:
As you can see quite clearly one list is much longer than the other!
So I have looked carefully at the Cons list to see what we can do to either prevent it or certainly to be more aware of those pitfalls.
On the blog I have written - 'contact during office hours.'
I need to make it clear to people that this is a small organisation not some large corporate organisation.
We have legal professionals now within the group to assist me.
I have made it clear that I will not get involved in personality clashes within the group, this is after all a support group.
I have and will if necessary bar people from making comments on the blog and bar them from being associated with Bristol Grandparents Support Group in any way.
Monday, 3 September 2012
Songs of Praise Sunday.
There are several grandparents talking about their role, so if you blink you might miss us.
Saturday, 1 September 2012
Do I continue?
Some of you will know that it has been a difficult time, for me and all my family and the group. What affects me affects all the family.
My family feel that I should pass on the mantle to someone else to take the load.
Running a support group is not just a question of posting info on this blog, it is much more.
It is answering the phone daily to distressed grandparents who have no one to turn to, to be there at any time ready with a shoulder and a listening ear.
To be non-judgemental, to take what is said at face value, to sign post people to help and support.
I have been in touch with hundreds of grandparents since I set the group up in 2007, because I was denied contact with my granddaughter.
That basis still remains, and has to be the focus for me.
I have met some wonderful people, done things I never thought possible.
To the future, well, if I am honest I am not sure.
It has been a time to back off and heal my wounds, still maybe more healing needed.
I thank everyone for their professional advice and support.
One thing that is certain, is that I am a grandparent who is not able to be part of my grandchild's life, and there are still over one million children in the UK who don't have a relationship with their grandparents.