Email to David Cameron

Dear Mr Cameron,
I was dismayed to see all the papers carrying your remarks on Fathers Day.
To use the analogy of drunk-drivers and 'runaway Fathers' is to say the very lest distasteful. My friends 10 year old son was killed by a drunk driver, and there is no comparison.
Of course fathers who do not take responsibility of parenthood needs to be addressed, but to apparently tar all fathers with the same brush is ridiculous.
I appreciate your comments on the importance of Fathers in all families, so why is it that you and your government will not legislate for shared parenting in the Family Justice Review, to say one thing but not act on them is hypercritical.
This government must have the power of its convictions, and take this golden opportunity with the family justice changes, to stop this dreadful situation of children being denied contact with their children, because of Parental Alienation.
It is the human right of all children to have the love and care of both parents.
This opportunity will not come around again, the lost generation is looking to you and your government to put this right once and for all.
Every day is a heartbreaking day, but Fathers Day is a even more difficult for the thousands of fathers who would give anything to have contact with their children, my son being just one. He has had no contact since 2007 , he has always paid child maintenance without question, so he is not a 'runaway' dad.

Shame on you Mr Cameron.

What a pity that Mr Cameron used Fathers Day for this remark about 'runaway dads,' how insensitive,there are thousands of Dads today breaking their hearts because they are denied contact with their children by their ex's, not just today but every day of their lives.

Of course Dads that go AWOL need to be brought to task, but using the comparison with a drunk driver?

He talks about the importance of Fathers but his government don't have the b..... to incorporate legislation for Shared Parenting in The Family Justice Review, shame on them.

Jane

Fathers Day

There will be Dads all over the UK, receiving hugs, soggy cornflakes and most importantly , love from their children, just as it should be.

Sadly, there will also be thousands of Dads, feeling heartbroken and empty as they are denied contact with their children.

Children who will have made cards for Dads they know they will not be seeing and wondering why,what did they do wrong to make this happen.

So to all Dads and children who won't be seeing or hearing from one another,I send my love and remember that you both hold your personal memories deep in your heart they can not be taken from you.

Jane.

Research on Kinship Care -Bristol

A report in The Bristol Evening Post tonight says that it is important that if children can not be looked after by their parents,for a variety of reasons then other family members must be considered.

http://www.thisisbristol.co.uk/Study-aims-help-young-kinship-care/story-12786859-detail/story.html

Does the Church have a role in supporting,teaching the importance of parenthood?

I would like to hear your views.

I have written to numerous clergy members in the past and have had various responses, most are supportive of supporting grandparents but not actually getting involved.

One who shall be nameless, even suggested that grandfathers are often involved in abuse in families...... I can't comment as it would be censored.

That sort of remark, in my humble opinion ,just shows where some members of the clergy are getting it so wrong. How can that attitude bring people together?

I believe that we are talking about a complete cultural change as far as family breakdown and non contact is concerned,we need to be teaching very young children the importance of relationships and the responsibility to us all when we have children and respect of family life.

Relationships today are very different, we can no longer assume that two people will fall in love,get married and have children.

Children can be as a result of a one night stand, but the children still deserve the same rights as if they were born into a 'conventional' family unit.

They still have two parents,grandparents, aunts and uncles.

The question as I said at the beginning, how can the Church take this forward?

Jane

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Grandson back with his Dad.

A call from a Grandparent yesterday on update of her situation, she has regained contact with her grandson and is building a great relationship with him.

He is now living with his Dad and is settling down well and enjoying discovering his family again.

A family who has always been there for him, sadly it is at the expense of his relationship with his Mum.

A lesson to be learned, the children will one day realise that they have been lied to and that other members of their family have had them in their heart every single day.

Jane