Hi everyone and welcome to Bristol Grandparents Support Group blog. Although we are Bristol based we have grandparents from all over the UK and beyond as members.

It is estimated that over one million children in the UK are denied contact with their grandparents due to family breakdown which may have been caused by divorce/separation, alcohol/drug dependency,domestic violence,bereavement or family feud.
Every child has the right to have contact with their grandparents
if they wish and unless proven unsafe for them to do so. To deny contact from a parent or grandparent has to become as socially unacceptable as drink driving.
I hope to keep you up to date with what is going on in BGSG and I shall continue to campaign for the rights of children to have a loving and meaningful relationship with both parents and their extended family. So please join in as good to hear your views, not just mine!
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There is no membership fee to be part of Bristol Grandparents Support Group.
Esther Rantzen says, " To every grandparent, links of love can never be broken in our hearts."

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Friday 18 November 2011

Fathers just need to go to court to see his children!!

That is what was said to me last night, and not for the first time, it makes me so angry that the reality of non-resident parents is still not getting out there.
It is such important issue and apart from the occasional headline of tabloid press, the public still have no idea at all of the situation and what goes on, in Family Courts and with ex partners. People of course don't know what goes on in The Family Courts because it's secret.
So here it is, again as plain as I can say.
There are thousands of non resident parents in the UK who are not having any contact at all with their children, because their ex's say so.
Yes fathers have a right to see their children, but it is not as simple as that.
If a couple part, and their is conflict and contact is denied, the non-resident parent has to go to court to apply for contact. Firstly why on earth, should you have to go to court to see your own children?
It can cost thousands and thousands, £20-£30..... and then if a contact agreement is made, it is still down to the ex if they turn up at agreed time and place, if not back to court.
Yes, the resident parent may well be breaking the law, but there are few if any consequences as it is detrimental to the children.
Is it not detrimental to the children in the fact that they are being kept from seeing both parents?
In the mean time in the months that this is all going on, what is the effect on the children? What is being said to the children about the non-resident parent?
So, some fathers after much heart-searching decide for the sake of the children to back off.
It is the hardest sacrifice of all.

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