Hi everyone and welcome to Bristol Grandparents Support Group blog. Although we are Bristol based we have grandparents from all over the UK and beyond as members.

It is estimated that over one million children in the UK are denied contact with their grandparents due to family breakdown which may have been caused by divorce/separation, alcohol/drug dependency,domestic violence,bereavement or family feud.
Every child has the right to have contact with their grandparents
if they wish and unless proven unsafe for them to do so. To deny contact from a parent or grandparent has to become as socially unacceptable as drink driving.
I hope to keep you up to date with what is going on in BGSG and I shall continue to campaign for the rights of children to have a loving and meaningful relationship with both parents and their extended family. So please join in as good to hear your views, not just mine!
I also will support via Skype.
There is no membership fee to be part of Bristol Grandparents Support Group.
Esther Rantzen says, " To every grandparent, links of love can never be broken in our hearts."

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Saturday 3 March 2012

Adults causing mental,emotional distress to children.

In an ideal situation when a relationship breaks up we work hard to make sure that it doesn't effect the children, anymore than it absolutely has to.
As adults we chose to bring children into this world and they have a right to expect us to respect them and to try and do whats right by them.
The reality so often is somewhat different.
A situation can and does arise when children spending time with both parents, have to perhaps adjust to different rules,different values in each household.
And of course two sets grandparents, maybe more, it is an incredibly unsettling for them, a very confusing time.
How many of us have said something we shouldn't about the other adult?
Saying things like, "How stupid of Dad/Mum/Gran/Grandpa to let you stay up late," " What on earth does Dad/Mum/Gran/Grandpa think they are doing giving you that to eat,its so unhealthy."
All of those comments, and worse, are a disaster to a child.
They try so hard to please everyone and to stay loyal to everyone.
Which is why so many children of separated parents, find themselves being sent to counselling.
As adults there is no excuse, whatever is going on in our adult life, our responsibility is to the children.
We are and have let them down.
Damage done.

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