Hi everyone and welcome to Bristol Grandparents Support Group blog. Although we are Bristol based we have grandparents from all over the UK and beyond as members.

It is estimated that over one million children in the UK are denied contact with their grandparents due to family breakdown which may have been caused by divorce/separation, alcohol/drug dependency,domestic violence,bereavement or family feud.
Every child has the right to have contact with their grandparents
if they wish and unless proven unsafe for them to do so. To deny contact from a parent or grandparent has to become as socially unacceptable as drink driving.
I hope to keep you up to date with what is going on in BGSG and I shall continue to campaign for the rights of children to have a loving and meaningful relationship with both parents and their extended family. So please join in as good to hear your views, not just mine!
I also will support via Skype.
There is no membership fee to be part of Bristol Grandparents Support Group.
Esther Rantzen says, " To every grandparent, links of love can never be broken in our hearts."

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Wednesday 15 August 2012

Are there others out there like me?

Isolation, alone, ashamed, bewildered, heartbroken, unbelieving, desperate and suicidal.
These are just a few words that grandparents have used when they find themselves denied contact with their grandchildren.
You are most certainly not alone, there are over one million children in the UK who are denied contact with their grandparents.
This can be for a variety of reasons, your child’s relationship with their partner may have broken up, a parent of your grandchild could well be drug or alcohol dependant, which makes any relationship with you difficult, sometimes impossible. There are many cases of  grandparents who are prevented from seeing their grandchildren when one of the parents dies prematurely. So  not only do the children lose Mum or Dad but subsequently their grandparents. I have thought long and hard about this and I can only think that it is just to painful for the Mum or Dad who is bereaved to have that association.
The grandparents I support who are bereaved have not only lost their child but also their grandchildren, who of course is their only link to their son or daughter.
Finally, there are grandparents who are denied contact due to a family fallout.
However we find ourselves in this situation the outcome is the same, an inability to be art of our grandchildren’s lives, to watch them grow to be able to impart the experiences and knowledge we have gained.
I recently saw a quote that I really thought so appropriate, that grandparents were like a shady tree.
A place to go for shelter , a welcoming place to share their knowledge with the next generation. Their unconditional love and warmth makes for a very special bond.
So when that bond is broken the children's lives are incomplete, where can they then go for shelter, that fount of knowledge, where can they go to get  that advice from the roots of their family tree to ensure that the fruit is sweet, worthy and loveable?
If you find yourself  with this terrible feeling of desperation , it is important to know that there are places you can go for help.
Understandably, grandparents can find themselves suffering with depression, if that is you, please go and talk to your GP who in most cases will be able to offer you free counseling , it does vary from surgery to surgery, but  usually it is 3-5 sessions are free.
Always, talk to someone if you have feelings of utter desperation contact The Samaritans  Tel : 08457909090
Contact a support group, to talk to someone who knows exactly how you are feeling, they are the experts.

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