Come on I am talking to you................

If you wish to read The Centre of Social Justice Report on family breakdown here is the link:
http://www.centreforsocialjustice.org.uk/UserStorage/pdf/Pdf%20reports/CSJ_Fractured_Families_Report_WEB_13.06.13.pdf


When I read this paragraph I am ashamed of this country,

-Today, seven years on since our 2006 report, Fractured Families, the UK is experiencing historically unprecedented levels of family breakdown and has one of the highest rates in the Western world. About 300,000 families separate each year and over four million children do not live with both their parents.-

With all these reports being churned out, I wonder if they are worth the paper they are written on? Of course the answer is no, you can't ague with the statistics, they are fact.
So all we get is a government playing lip service and making promises that they never keep. Continuing to let families down, most importantly the children.
We were given the impression that government would legislate for Shared Parenting , which clearly is not going to happen.
It's OK though, because when couples separate they will be ENCOURAGED to mediate and to realise the importance of BOTH parents.
Anyone who is involved in this issue, knows that is going to work? Well, No it won't.
The numbers of children being abused by denied contact will continue to rise, because no-one has the political desire to stop it.
Contact orders are broken every minute of every day, and the consequences of that?
There aren't any, you can apparently just break the order, and nothing will happen. Funny I would have thought it would be breaking the law, Oh silly me!
Oh and I nearly forgot, what if your child/grandchild apparently says they don't want to have anything to do with you, Um that's  OK as well, they must have said it? 
Did they?
Some people wonder why on earth some non resident parents and grandparents take extreme action to try and get someone to listen, maybe you need to ask yourself, what would you do if suddenly you no longer could see or talk to your children/grandchildren, and please don't think, it could never happen to you.
It can, and it does!
Yet another report says that the first 6 years of a child's life is when they learn likes,dislikes,fear etc. So if a child is hearing one parent bad mouthing the other for a period of time they believe it, and it becomes ingrained.
In the remotest of chances that any young person out there is reading this who is apart from a parent/grandparent, please remember that you are loved and cherished in the hearts of us all, you have not been forgotten the door is always open for you. Your parent/grandparent is trying everything in their power to be able to hold you again. If there is a way of you communicating with them perhaps via social media, don't hold back,give it a go, we are all here just waiting. It is not about the past, of things that may or may not have been said or done, it is about the future and where we go from here, together.

Jane
www.bristolgrandparentssupportgroup.co.uk