Hi everyone and welcome to Bristol Grandparents Support Group blog. Although we are Bristol based we have grandparents from all over the UK and beyond as members.

It is estimated that over one million children in the UK are denied contact with their grandparents due to family breakdown which may have been caused by divorce/separation, alcohol/drug dependency,domestic violence,bereavement or family feud.
Every child has the right to have contact with their grandparents
if they wish and unless proven unsafe for them to do so. To deny contact from a parent or grandparent has to become as socially unacceptable as drink driving.
I hope to keep you up to date with what is going on in BGSG and I shall continue to campaign for the rights of children to have a loving and meaningful relationship with both parents and their extended family. So please join in as good to hear your views, not just mine!
I also will support via Skype.
There is no membership fee to be part of Bristol Grandparents Support Group.
Esther Rantzen says, " To every grandparent, links of love can never be broken in our hearts."

Please contact during office hours.

Sunday 3 April 2011

Being Denied Contact Is Not Always As a Result Of Divorce Issues.

It needs to be said that being denied contact with your grandchildren is not by any means always when sons/daughters relationships with their partners breaks down.
Within the Bristol Group there are many grandparents who are not allowed to see their grandchildren because their sons or daughters ,fall out with their family and decide that they no longer want the children to have any relationship with their grandparents.
It is difficult to know how this situation can be resolved.
There are also cases where a son or daughter dies prematurely and the parent left behind wants to cut all association with the husband or wife they have so tragically lost.
Of course every story is different, but the end result is always the same, the children are being denied their human right to have contact with their extended family, if it is safe for them to do so.
What happens when children are old enough to make their own decisions?
Will they turn their backs on adults who have not been truthful with them?
Will they resent the lost years of having a loving relationship with their grandparents?
Time will tell.
I would ask anyone who is preventing their children from having contact with their grandparents to think to the future, don't burden the children with this,you may not see eye to eye with other family members but allow your children to make their own mind up.
Who is the winner in all of this?
Absolutely no-one.
In these unsettled times we are all seeing and experiencing around the world, we must get back to valuing families and the importance of families in our broken society.
Our children are the future of this world, we owe it to them to put this right.

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