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It is estimated that over one million children in the UK are denied contact with their grandparents due to family breakdown which may have been caused by divorce/separation, alcohol/drug dependency,domestic violence,bereavement or family feud.
Every child has the right to have contact with their grandparents
if they wish and unless proven unsafe for them to do so. To deny contact from a parent or grandparent has to become as socially unacceptable as drink driving.
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Esther Rantzen says, " To every grandparent, links of love can never be broken in our hearts."

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Monday 27 May 2013

Should child know where Dad is?

I read today a post on a forum from a Mum who said that after many years she has now found the Dad of her child on FB, and she posed the question what should she do?
Is this a difficult decision?
There are several ways to look at it, from the adults perspective, a Mum who was left at 3 months pregnant to bring up her daughter, as far as I can tell Dad has not had any contact, the child is now 15 years of age. So probably you would think, 'well you had 15 years to get in touch,' he knew where they lived etc, 'so how would you react now?'
The other, and the most important one for me, is looking at it from the child's perspective. She knows about her Dad, and she is now 15, and needs to be given the information that his whereabouts is now known, and for her to be able to be given the choice of making an informed decision.
Not being given that choice is not an option, these things have a nasty habit of coming back to haunt you.
If the child at a later date finds out that Mum knew where he was, but didn't tell her, it could so easily rebound, creating yet more conflict.

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