Hi everyone and welcome to Bristol Grandparents Support Group blog. Although we are Bristol based we have grandparents from all over the UK and beyond as members.

It is estimated that over one million children in the UK are denied contact with their grandparents due to family breakdown which may have been caused by divorce/separation, alcohol/drug dependency,domestic violence,bereavement or family feud.
Every child has the right to have contact with their grandparents
if they wish and unless proven unsafe for them to do so. To deny contact from a parent or grandparent has to become as socially unacceptable as drink driving.
I hope to keep you up to date with what is going on in BGSG and I shall continue to campaign for the rights of children to have a loving and meaningful relationship with both parents and their extended family. So please join in as good to hear your views, not just mine!
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Esther Rantzen says, " To every grandparent, links of love can never be broken in our hearts."

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Wednesday 26 February 2014

Grandpa Hurts Too.

In the heartbreak of being denied contact there is often one very important person who slips into the background, Grandpa.
When Marc and I were doing an interview for Inside out West some time ago, the producer asked Marc a question, "How does it make you feel, not seeing your granddaughter?" There was a long pause, and I felt his hand shake in mine, as I looked up at him he had tears in his eyes and said, "It is grief, just grief." The room was totally silent as his utter sadness enveloped everyone.
It was at that moment I suddenly realised that, the man siting beside me was falling apart himself.
Well, of course he was, he had lost his granddaughter who he loves so deeply, but it was the first time that he had actually shown his emotion.
When we talked about it later, he said that he felt that grandpas are of a generation of stiff upper lip, of being the head of the family of being stoical in times of stress, of not being able or wanting to express their feelings.
The producer of the programme who was visibly upset herself asked him if he wanted that part taken out and not shown when it aired.
With our any hesitation he said, "No it must stay in, it is truth, other grandpas need to know its ok to show their personal despair."
As the programme ended the phone rang, it was a grandpa.
So to all grandpas who are also going through this, we are here for you too, and to all the grans, don't forget that grandpa hurts too.  x

1 comment:

  1. Absolutely heartbreaking to read....