Hi everyone and welcome to Bristol Grandparents Support Group blog. Although we are Bristol based we have grandparents from all over the UK and beyond as members.

It is estimated that over one million children in the UK are denied contact with their grandparents due to family breakdown which may have been caused by divorce/separation, alcohol/drug dependency,domestic violence,bereavement or family feud.
Every child has the right to have contact with their grandparents
if they wish and unless proven unsafe for them to do so. To deny contact from a parent or grandparent has to become as socially unacceptable as drink driving.
I hope to keep you up to date with what is going on in BGSG and I shall continue to campaign for the rights of children to have a loving and meaningful relationship with both parents and their extended family. So please join in as good to hear your views, not just mine!
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Esther Rantzen says, " To every grandparent, links of love can never be broken in our hearts."

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Wednesday 30 April 2014

Grandchildren still love their grandparents.

Yet again the children are making changes in their lives and relationships.
Two grandparents have been 'getting to know' their grandchildren again via Facebook, their grandchildren out of the blue sent them friend requests and in both cases the children are in their teens and have said that they want to see them and the slow process of healing is beginning.
In another case, an estranged daughter contacted another family member to say that her children wanted to see their grandparents, my understanding is that the grandchildren had put quite a lot of pressure on the parent over it.
Those of us who have bought up teenagers will understand the sort of pressure that may have gone on!
A neutral place to meet was arranged and the grandchildren were dropped off, the grandparent told me, that it was as though they had only been together yesterday, where as in fact they had not been in contact for 4 years.
One of the children said, " I knew things would be just the same."
Another visit was arranged  and the children are now going for weekend visits.
There was a special request via a text message " Please can we have apple crumble, as granny's crumble is the best in the world!"

Funny how, it is not the first time I have heard about food requests!

To say the grandparents concerned are thrilled would be an understatement, but they also know that it can all change at the flip of a coin, the wrong word the wrong look and it could fall apart. The difference now is that the children are older and have made their voice heard.


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