Hi everyone and welcome to Bristol Grandparents Support Group blog. Although we are Bristol based we have grandparents from all over the UK and beyond as members.

It is estimated that over one million children in the UK are denied contact with their grandparents due to family breakdown which may have been caused by divorce/separation, alcohol/drug dependency,domestic violence,bereavement or family feud.
Every child has the right to have contact with their grandparents
if they wish and unless proven unsafe for them to do so. To deny contact from a parent or grandparent has to become as socially unacceptable as drink driving.
I hope to keep you up to date with what is going on in BGSG and I shall continue to campaign for the rights of children to have a loving and meaningful relationship with both parents and their extended family. So please join in as good to hear your views, not just mine!
I also will support via Skype.
There is no membership fee to be part of Bristol Grandparents Support Group.
Esther Rantzen says, " To every grandparent, links of love can never be broken in our hearts."

Please contact during office hours.

Saturday 19 April 2014

Reflection, Forgiveness and New Beginnings.

Whether you follow a faith or not Easter is a time for reflection, forgiveness and new beginnings.

Reflection: Sometimes we have to look at ourselves and to think about how we can make a difference, we all start our lives in exactly the same way, it is the things that happen to us from then on that make us the people we become.
We all know that life throws its highs and lows at us constantly, one minute life is great the next tragedy  happens. It is how we react to it all that defines us.
One minute we are part of a family, children/grandparents/aunts/uncles and cousins, then something happens that turns our world on its head. Adults make a conscious decision to put others through their own personal hell, withdrawing contact with children/grandchildren.
I know that lots of parents read my blogs and I would ask you to look to yourselves, the consequence of your actions has and is causing  some ex's and grandparents to end their lives. Do you really want that on your conscience for the rest of your lives,  how will you explain that to the children/grandchildren?
Believe me I do not exaggerate.
Of course every case is individual, learn to put the needs of the children/grandchildren first, you may well hate your ex partner and their family, but the children still love them all.

Forgiveness: Now this is a really hard one. Who said it was ever going to be easy. If someone has hurt you beyond words physically/mentally how do we forgive?
Perhaps we again need to look into ourselves, have we done stuff that we are really sorry about? I know I have. It is never too late to say sorry.
We have to learn to agree to disagree sometimes, I have often said that I am sorry to my DIL, for anything I may have done to have caused her hatred of me. Once again I am saying sorry.
Forgiveness is letting go of all the negatives, not condoning it.

New Beginnings: If we can work our way through the first two, we are in a position to look to the future. Easter sees new life everywhere we look. Young innocent lives, just starting on a journey, a journey where Dads and Mums nurture their little ones and prepare them for the wonders of life. Tiny chicks are calling to their elders for protection, little lambs are gambling about the green fields soaking up the sun and what about us?
We have a responsibility to make changes, to stop using children as weapons, to get back to the real reason we are here.
To be the parents/grandparents our children deserve to start behaving like responsible adults and putting the children/grandchildren first.

Happy Easter.

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