Hi everyone and welcome to Bristol Grandparents Support Group blog. Although we are Bristol based we have grandparents from all over the UK and beyond as members.

It is estimated that over one million children in the UK are denied contact with their grandparents due to family breakdown which may have been caused by divorce/separation, alcohol/drug dependency,domestic violence,bereavement or family feud.
Every child has the right to have contact with their grandparents
if they wish and unless proven unsafe for them to do so. To deny contact from a parent or grandparent has to become as socially unacceptable as drink driving.
I hope to keep you up to date with what is going on in BGSG and I shall continue to campaign for the rights of children to have a loving and meaningful relationship with both parents and their extended family. So please join in as good to hear your views, not just mine!
I also will support via Skype.
There is no membership fee to be part of Bristol Grandparents Support Group.
Esther Rantzen says, " To every grandparent, links of love can never be broken in our hearts."

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Thursday 3 April 2014

We need to look to ourselves.

I think it is a time to regroup and to rethink and to face the truth.
For those who thought that the Family Justice Reforms were going to put things right, will have been bitterly disappointed to say the very least.
Even recent reports that appeared to be a good thing are apparently not, according to some.
So the honest truth is that, the whole issue of family breakdown, denied contact and alienation is a problem that can not actually be legislated for, it is adult conflict which is irrational, the law is rational and the two can't meet.
Mediation is a problem as well, because it is necessary for two parties to talk and that is the issue they often refuse to do so.
Ok, so thats all negative so we as individuals have to think in a different way.
I know from running the group that there are many thousands of parents and grandparents who are all experiencing this pain, so we need to tap into that resource.
We know that at local and branch level, many groups and organisations are doing a great job at the coal face, giving support and advice and just being there for one another.
It may not seem much to some, but actually it is priceless and can be a life saver.
It is no good to look to government or any other body to change this, the only chance was legislation for Shared Parenting, we now know that it is not going to happen, so it is down to us.
Those of us running groups ect, need to keep doing what we are doing acting with empathy and honesty, not to be judgemental to make a difference in our own ways.

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